How to escape the “Friend’s Zone” with a girl

There’s a girl you are friends with who you really like, and it’s really frustrating seeing her with other guys who you know you are way better for her than. But she might not even be interested in you, she sees you as a friend and nothing more. How can you break out of that so she sees you as more than just a friend?

The Details:

Be Less Interested – It’s possible that your relationship is already imbalanced because you value it more than she does. Depending on your situation, taking a step back may prove to be a good idea to take a step back as being needy is not an attractive trait.

Expand your social circle – By expanding your social circle, and in particular adding a few more female friends into the mix, you naturally make yourself more ‘scarce’ and also seen as higher status.

Lead her and lead others more – Women are naturally more attracted to leaders, and this can be as simple as being the guy who organizes a poker night, or a dinner out with friends. Don’t follow everyone else’s lead… Be the man who makes life fun and interesting.

Live your an inspirational life – Women love to be with a man who has ambition and personal goals. Make your life something that makes her excited to be a part of. If you only seem to want to be around her and nothing else, then she may think you’re desperate. You may even wish to date other people too, that way she’ll see that you’re a catch as other women are interested in you too.

Flirt, tease and banter with her more – Discreetly add flirting into your friendship .Be sure that you build up the flirting slowly – if in a day you completely change the way you were, and flirt a lot then you may scare her away! Start with the simplest of things – even by just injecting a bit more humor and subtle touching when you are joking around.

Establish physical contact – I don’t mean anything inappropriate, nor over the top. I mean just be a buddy who is not afraid to touch her during your interactions. This can include subtle touches on the arm etc when joking around, to holding her hand when leading her somewhere, to putting your arm around her to share a secret and more.

Ger her to occasionally do things for you –
Contrary to what most people believe, people actually like people more when they are ‘lead’ into doing things for them. Even if it’s just something small like getting a soda from the fridge, to give you a ride, etc. Don’t go over the top and become a leach and a ‘user’, however it is interesting that people like others more when they see themselves as more ‘invested’ in the relationship.

The Bottom Line:

It can be frustrating when you fall for a friend but you are stuck in the dreaded friends zone. But there are certainly things you can do to raise your chances or making her your girlfriend, most of these revolve around you becoming a more masculine man.


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